WHY THE RELATIONSHIP ISN'T WORKING...

Hello lovelies, how's the summer going? over here it's very hot and not so much fun in my city. So i decided to go down this path of relationships, i never wanted to write about it, knowing how much i'll rant about it, but i guess sometimes you just need to rant to let go and share the things in your head. So this relationship thing what is it really about?, Well in my opinion i'll say it's the chemistry or bond between two people, not necessarily of the opposite sex, it can be between friends, or family. I however want to focus on the one between the opposite sex, knowing how it has built and destroyed so many lives. So let's get down to business, the reason why your relationship isn't working out, i'll state a few points and hopefully you can relate.

1) HE/SHE ISN'T THE RIGHT ONE; i know you're like, how do you know he/she isn't the right one, well people if you are in relationship where you fight often, like 2-6 months into the relationship maybe they ain't the right one. please who has the strength to fight every time with one human all in the name of relationship, well i don't.

2) NOT LETTING GO OF CERTAIN THINGS; Some of us don't let go of things that happened in the past, and you rush into relationships and make things difficult for your new partner, while some of us can't stop comparing the new partner with the old one; please why didn't you stick with the old one if they were better.

3)HIDEOUS BEHAVIOR; sometimes we hurt people without realizing it, and some of us pretend not to care or know. Why the hell are you deleting those messages or keeping them in archives, why do you keep texting that ex endlessly( i thought ex means it's over), those calls you go outside to answer cause your partner is there, that one girl/boy that likes you but you don't put them in their place rather you spend hours talking to them or constantly messaging them, the list goes on.

4)NO AFFECTION; if you don't know how to show affection learn. I'm talking about breakfast, lunch, dinner(cook or take them out), buy them stuff, sometimes escorting her/him somewhere isn't bad, spend time with her/him, you know what your partner likes and what makes them happy do it as long as it doesn't change your principles.

5)ATTITUDE; When it comes to attitude many of us have problem in this area, try to stop the things that makes your partner angry or try their patience. He/she might really like you but your character isn't helping, control your anger issues, learn to be mannered in public, learn not to be too controlling, have patience and try to look presentable everyone one likes a gentleman or modest lady, try not to be irresponsible too.

6)YOU'RE BOTH DIFFERENT; if you both like different things then it's impossible for you both to stay together. I don't even need to talk much about this,because how did it become a relationship in the first place?. 

7) THE RELATIONSHIP IS BASED ON A LIE; When you're in a relationship because of pity, beauty, body criteria, money or other superficial stuff and not genuine love, sooner or later you both are going your separate ways because the real reason for the relationship is lost or fades.

i'll just end here cause trust me there are so many things that causes relationships not to last. Basically you're the one in the relationship you know better than whatever you read on blogs or watch on vlogs, these are just here to give you hints. like the saying goes "the one wearing the shoes knows where it hurts the most", so you know better. My advice is if somethings can't be fixed, let go. Every relationship that doesn't work, should be a lesson, don't stay back and get hurt. EVERYONE DESERVES HAPPINESS

8 SUMMER ESSENTIALS

Yay! it's summer again, you know what that means no more coats, doubling clothes and all the stuff you do during winter that makes you heavy, i bet you would see some people and be like wow! never knew you were this skinny. Now it's summer some people are so excited to show there fitbody and those abs #fitfam, while some are happy for the weather, whatever the case maybe we all know there are some clothes you need to get through this hot weather especially if you're in my current location. I'm here to give you ideas as always.

1) You definitely need this; short sleeves, sleeveless top, tank tops etc.

    

2) For bottoms; Shorts, leggings, skirts these are more preferable than jean trouser when the heat is extreme, for the shorts try to keep it modest not slutty. if you still want to go for trousers but not jeans, wide leg trousers are a good choice

 

3) Dresses are a good choice too, when you are not in the mood to dress up, this is easy.quick and comfortable.

 


5) This is my favorite during summer playsuits, dungarees etc. This is simple and also comfortable.

 



6) For footwears, it's really good and comfortable wearing shoes that are easy to pull off and air your feet, such as sandals, plimsolls, flat shoes, espadrilles and maybe trainers depending on your outfit, slippers are good too. Try to keep your toe nails neat.

 
7) Accessories are also needed for this hot sun, you gotta be ready. Sunglasses, hats, handkerchief etc,

               
8) Swimsuits/swim short, needed just in-case you need to visit the beach, pool , etc. which you might expect you're scared of swimming.
   I hope this was helpful, and do have a wonderful summer and for those still writing exams wish you a successful exam. Prior to my last post i forgot to add gift cards are good birthday gift, in-case you have no idea what to get the person. If you haven't seen that post yet, do check it out and don't forget to share an subscribe.

TIPS FOR BIRTHDAY GIFT

Hi guys, how's it going? Been quite a while i know, to be honest this semester hasn't been easy at all, lots of school work, and little personal time. I missed sharing new stuff with you guys and i'm so happy to be writing again, hope you all will love this.
So lately lots of friends have celebrated birthdays and sometimes it's difficult picking out gifts, but just sit tight, i'm gonna help you out with the few thoughts i got. First thing you need to know while picking out a gift and you want the person to love it, you must know what kind of things they like and what will suit them most. You must also consider your budget, don't buy what you can't afford, you can get really nice stuff for cheaper prices. One thing you must not do when buying a gift is getting something of little value, you want this person to love and appreciate your gift. So let's get started

1) SHOES; These are really good gifts anyone would love them both sexes, you can get a nice flat or heels for girls, if you can afford trainers some people would love that.

   

2) TOP/PULLOVER/SHIRTS: This is another nice gift that would be loved by anyone. Getting floral, black, pastel, white or nude would be more preferable, since they are like essentials colors or you can get them their favorite color. For guys a nice corporate shirt or blazer should do.

                         

                          

3) DRESS; You can never go wrong with a dress as a gift, it's more convenient to get and you really don't have to worry about sizes, if you want to make it a surprise.

                                                                                                                                                                 

4) ACCESSORIES: These are nice, cheap and also convenient to get. You have varieties to pick from bags, jewelries, scarf, belts, hats and purse.

 
 


5)TOILETRIES: When i say toiletries i don't mean all those high school gift, tissue etc. Perfumes are also toiletries. Some come in a set with hand-cream and other stuff.



Sometimes gifts aren't what some people want, you can hangout, cook dinner for your bae, go on a trip/date, a surprise get together or your time. What ever gift you giving someone make the best out of it and put a smile on a face, i really hope this was helpful and don't forget your budget always comes first. Till when next i put up a post it's your girl Krips. Have a lovely day.

HYGIENE

Hello dear readers, hope everyone is having a good February?. It's been a fascinating month for me from the daily routine of school and media. Anyways i'm not here to talk about me but one of my many concerns, hygiene.
                      It is basically maintaining good health to avoid diseases. Today it's something most of us ignore, they say cleanliness is next to Godliness, see even God acknowledges hygiene. When i say good health i'm not just talking about the immune system but also the environment, outward appearances and external body parts. Actually it makes sense now come to think of it, when our environment is not neat or what we ingest isn't good, it affects the immune system.
                    Environment; our surroundings, it should be neat, i think that's one thing most of us fail to do, we hate dirty environments but we are too lazy to clean up, some of us don't mind ,we can live in filth. It's hard but let's try, most of us are guilty when it comes to these; piling clothes, dishes, not sweeping the house for weeks, when it becomes a habit it becomes a problem. If you can stay in a house that smells damp or some other bad odor then that's extreme. You only clean your house when you have a visitor, stop being a hypocrite and be clean for yourself not for someone else. It's not difficult to be clean, when you eat, wash your plate after, fold your clothes and put in the drawer after drying, if you are tired and can't do it at that very moment, try to do it the next day, there's always time stop procrastinating, it's for your own benefit. Wouldn't you like a breath of fresh air and living in a neat house, having clean dishes or clothes when you want them?
                    This is something we all do, go to the market or store to buy groceries and when you get home you just start eating them without washing the fruits first, chai! "na so the hunger dey do you". Those fruits we don't know where it has been, we should be cautious about the little things, that we think don't matter. I know this saying "dirty no dey kill African man" but African man is human too and if it's harmful it would affect the body. Yea it might not be a a big deal but let's just still do what's safe. These are basic things we were taught in primary school, wash your hands after using the toilet, wash your fruits before eating and the list goes on.
                      Now about taking care of our body parts, this is very important. Dear people, please why would you ignore taking care of your body? my dear sisters, this our body is a very complicated one, many parts need our care. As a lady body odor is a big NO, it breaks my heart to know some girls have this, this is something that once you notice, you get rid of without any delay. I know some of us sweat a lot. it's okay but when you let it take advantage of your body then it's not okay. Water is free, not scarce, deodorant has been made available in varieties so what exactly is the problem?. Taking a shower twice a day isn't much of a job, laziness shouldn't count when it comes to this, skipping a day and not taking a shower isn't an option especially for us girls. Please clean every part of the body, there are intimate wash gels, everything has been made available.  This is an everyday routine bathing and brushing the teeth.
                     Sometimes during the day after closing the mouth for a longtime there's an odor, so let's try to have gum or mouth spray., so we can use. Our outfits should be neat, and presentable. If you hate ironing, fold the clothes and put under your pillow, i don't know if that works but they say it's a way to straighten cloth. Wear neat clothes, if you want to repeat clothes, please air it when you take it off, my opinion i think when clothes are soaked in sweat you should wash first, also if it's white it should be worn once per wash. Try also to clean your shoes, some shoes look like they were worn on a wilderness journey. Guys are no exception to this, it applies to you too. Take care of your body. It helps us after-all to be healthy and look presentable. Hopefully we all learn. Friends, help each other. you ain't a friend if you feel embarrassed to tell the truth. Do have a nice day and a lovely week.

Hi guys, hope you're all doing well?. I thank God exams are finally over, everything didn't really go as planned but thanks to God i made it. Today i'm just going to rant, maybe not. 
      So of late i have heard so many Africans saying, (nigerians specifically) "oh i don't go to church cause it's more of a fashion show house than a church", now that's an insult to God, calling his house a showcase of fashion . First of, what's a church? it's a place of worship and corrections,
formerly called the synagogue in the older days. We go to church to worship God and listen to his words for correction, not to look at what people wear. I don't know much about other African countries but i know we Nigerians always try to look our best when we go to gatherings (e.g. church). We all know all hands are not equal someone's best might not be yours, so don't go about saying the Lord's house is a fashion house. An outfit to church, once it's modest and appropriate is anything but wrong. Let's not forget that not everyone that comes to church comes with the right intention. some people come to get better, maybe some people come to show off but that shouldn't be your focus, if you've come for the purpose of worshiping God you wouldn't even care about the details of a person's outfit. Personally i think when coming to church, your mindset should be going to worship God and learn more about his words to be better. So why bother yourself with someone looking better than you?(if you even consider it so)
         Secondly, let's try to dress modest to church, it's a church not a party house, why wear something you are not comfortable with to church, do you feel better being called out for your dressing? i think that's quite embarrassing, it's the Lord's house try to do everything with modesty and caution. Let's help each other, tell a friend when you think what they wearing ain't right rather than slandering, if the person doesn't listen let them be, they'll get it along the line, some people learn better the hard way, hopefully we all would learn. We are all flawed in one way or the other. Let's go to church for the right reasons and don't stop because of someone's action, like the bible says "it's a personal race". I wonder,would you tell God you didn't go to His house to worship because of someone's action? Go to church with your mind and heart, not your eyes and mouth. And yes it's a sub to all of us. 

Today on fashion&style is another feature from France, with a very lovely and amazing style. Meet

NAME:

Eric Kembi

YOUR AGE?

i'm 23yrs old

                                                         WHAT'S YOUR STYLE?
                                               i just love keeping it simple and smart

                                           
                                                WHAT'S YOUR PERSONALITY?
                                                      I'm a simple man, fashion lover

                                      WHAT DO YOU DO WITH YOUR FREETIME?
                                             I model with my freetime
                   
          INSTAGRAM: monsieur_ness
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Hey guys meet another feature of the day, from ukraine is the eloquent gentleman

                       NAME;
                      Oyebamire Ismail Bola

                     WHAT'S YOU PERSONALITY LIKE 
                     i'm a simple guy, love fun.

                    WHAT'S YOUR STYLE?
i rock any type of style, i believe in flexibility, you don't have to be with a specific style 

                WHO INSPIRES YOUR STYLE?
i think my environment and the dope homies around me, got no inspiration  from any celebrity

           ARE YOU IN SCHOOL?, IF SO WHAT DO YOU STUDY?
           i'm a future medical doctor, i'm in my finals of my medical school

        WHAT DO YOU DO WITH YOUR FREETIME?
       Surf the net, try out new outfits and hangout with friends

                                                   
                       WHAT'S YOUR BIGGEST ASPIRATION?
I want to be a successful entrepreneur and to own one of the biggest known pharmaceutical industries            

                        WHAT'S YOUR MOTTO?
                        Hardwork beats talents

WHAT'S YOUR FAVORITE WARDROBE PIECE?

i honestly got no favorite wardrobe piece, cause they are like software and you need to update them

ADVICE TO PEOPLE ABOUT FASHION?

Label isn't everything, don't go broke in the name of rocking an outfit. Keep it simple with comfort and elegance, never allow the outfit to rock you

                     INSTAGRAM: mrfantastic007
                     BLOG: www.oyebamireismail.blogspot.com