WHY THE RELATIONSHIP ISN'T WORKING...

Hello lovelies, how's the summer going? over here it's very hot and not so much fun in my city. So i decided to go down this path of relationships, i never wanted to write about it, knowing how much i'll rant about it, but i guess sometimes you just need to rant to let go and share the things in your head. So this relationship thing what is it really about?, Well in my opinion i'll say it's the chemistry or bond between two people, not necessarily of the opposite sex, it can be between friends, or family. I however want to focus on the one between the opposite sex, knowing how it has built and destroyed so many lives. So let's get down to business, the reason why your relationship isn't working out, i'll state a few points and hopefully you can relate.

1) HE/SHE ISN'T THE RIGHT ONE; i know you're like, how do you know he/she isn't the right one, well people if you are in relationship where you fight often, like 2-6 months into the relationship maybe they ain't the right one. please who has the strength to fight every time with one human all in the name of relationship, well i don't.

2) NOT LETTING GO OF CERTAIN THINGS; Some of us don't let go of things that happened in the past, and you rush into relationships and make things difficult for your new partner, while some of us can't stop comparing the new partner with the old one; please why didn't you stick with the old one if they were better.

3)HIDEOUS BEHAVIOR; sometimes we hurt people without realizing it, and some of us pretend not to care or know. Why the hell are you deleting those messages or keeping them in archives, why do you keep texting that ex endlessly( i thought ex means it's over), those calls you go outside to answer cause your partner is there, that one girl/boy that likes you but you don't put them in their place rather you spend hours talking to them or constantly messaging them, the list goes on.

4)NO AFFECTION; if you don't know how to show affection learn. I'm talking about breakfast, lunch, dinner(cook or take them out), buy them stuff, sometimes escorting her/him somewhere isn't bad, spend time with her/him, you know what your partner likes and what makes them happy do it as long as it doesn't change your principles.

5)ATTITUDE; When it comes to attitude many of us have problem in this area, try to stop the things that makes your partner angry or try their patience. He/she might really like you but your character isn't helping, control your anger issues, learn to be mannered in public, learn not to be too controlling, have patience and try to look presentable everyone one likes a gentleman or modest lady, try not to be irresponsible too.

6)YOU'RE BOTH DIFFERENT; if you both like different things then it's impossible for you both to stay together. I don't even need to talk much about this,because how did it become a relationship in the first place?. 

7) THE RELATIONSHIP IS BASED ON A LIE; When you're in a relationship because of pity, beauty, body criteria, money or other superficial stuff and not genuine love, sooner or later you both are going your separate ways because the real reason for the relationship is lost or fades.

i'll just end here cause trust me there are so many things that causes relationships not to last. Basically you're the one in the relationship you know better than whatever you read on blogs or watch on vlogs, these are just here to give you hints. like the saying goes "the one wearing the shoes knows where it hurts the most", so you know better. My advice is if somethings can't be fixed, let go. Every relationship that doesn't work, should be a lesson, don't stay back and get hurt. EVERYONE DESERVES HAPPINESS